Can you give me a reason that would help me understand why this keeps happening? I would say go for understanding, don’t go for resolution.
When you put it to him like that, you’re not blaming him, you’re just telling him how you feel and asking for an explanation you can understand.
In fact, if you tell a guy what he’s doing that you don’t like and how it makes you feel, that’s one of the best ways to help the guy get where you’re coming from.
On the other hand, you definitely do NOT want to come from a place of blaming, assuming or attacking.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.
We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.
In this scenario, I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m just saying it’s a smart thing to do because it will give you insight into how you are and clarity on the whole situation.
Generally speaking, I think it’s destructive in a relationship to think about things in terms of what someone is doing right or wrong (whether it’s you or the guy you’re with).