I’m not talking the superficial, “I need him to be 6’3” stuff; I’m talking the substantive qualities that by experience you have found that you NEED in a partner to complement and inspire you, and the cruddy, undesirable qualities you don’t want making your life all toxic.I can’t define these for you, but there are some exercises that can help you move toward clarity: For some folks, veganism is a dietary preference, and they don’t mind if their partner is a meat-loving BBQ pit-master, or they don’t expect others to follow suit.For those who are committed to finding a strictly vegetarian or vegan partner, a host of new and encouraging sites (some are even free! I’m attached, so I haven’t personally used these sites, so with any dating site, please use discretion and common sense when sharing information online: Vegan Dating, Vegan Passions, Veggie Date, Veggie Connection, Vegan Dating Service, Vegans In Love, and Green Singles are just a few. Get involved with things that bring you joy and cement your values.
Again, no one can determine these parameters for you, but getting crystal clear on what you can and cannot tolerate is the first step in being honest about what kind of relationship you want and knowing how to find it. Many people require that their ideal partner share their faith, political leanings, and other commonalities, and veganism is no less important or valid. Life’s fun that way, and love kinda works like that, too.
While we don’t have all the answers (who does, when it comes to dating?
), we’ve compiled some excellent resources, sites, and advice that will leave you feeling clearer on what you want, more educated on where best to find your match, and more confident in how you present your values and reconcile those when in a relationship. If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to the relationship section of a bookstore, coffee in-hand, immersed in the Patti Stanger book about how to make yourself desirable to a potential mate or that guide on becoming a more efficient dater (no personal experience on this one or anything…), you probably already know that the first key to finding right match is getting clear on what you absolutely DON’T want and completely DO need.
No more spending hours swiping through profiles on your phone with people that aren’t even vegetarian/vegan.
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