You don’t respond, but your mind starts to travel in that direction. We need to talk 🙁 You are determined not to respond, because this isn’t the first time you’ve been here and you know how hard it is to get yourself back to this place, where you’re fed up enough to actually take action to end it, but you feel it, there it is, another heart string pulled.
Your phone buzzes again, it’s another text: Do you remember our first date? Your Narcissist has determined that this was a failed attempt, since you didn’t respond, so they decide they have to up their game.
They were looking for a way in and the best way to control you.
Whether this is conscious behavior or subconscious behavior, a narcissist knows just what information is important enough to be remembered and stored for future use.
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Don’t make the mistake of thinking that now things will be on your terms, because any change in their behavior would be short lived.When he pulls the lever and never gets rewarded, he will learn quickly that pulling the lever gets him nowhere, so he’ll just stop.That is the place where you want to get your Narcissist after going no contact.When a Narcissist is pursuing you like this, do not misinterpret this as flattery, or an indication of the depth of their emotions for you.What it really is, is an attempt to control you and a complete disregard for your wishes and your boundaries.