One of my employees embarrassed me at a business lunch.When it came time to pay, everyone took out either their own credit or debit cards or their company one.One (Bruce) is a constant mansplainer who has made his fair share of sexist remarks about me as a working mother.The other (Frank) has coasted through his job for years with me picking up his slack AND has a not-so-secret drinking problem.She has a landline and no mobile phone and she doesn’t own a TV or any kind of streaming service, and when she isn’t job searching she only checks her email once or twice a week.But she doesn’t see why using cash a business meal or event is a faux pas or misstep.
People who need to describe themselves as crazy, zany, or any of the above are usually none of those things.Come on people, let’s ditch this one from our dating dictionary. If by ‘work hard’ you mean you’re ambitious and focused on your career, that’s admirable.If by ‘play hard’ you mean you have many active hobbies, are into fitness or sports or are adventuresome, that’s also very attractive.For the past two years, I have been rated as “Exceeds Expectations” on my annual reviews. Since he would run a mile rather than have a confrontation with anyone, he gives everyone the exact same raise — even those who are rated “Below Expectations.”Am I crazy for thinking my raise should be higher than people who aren’t performing up to expectations?When I asked him about it, he said he was giving everyone the same pay increase because he “didn’t want to make anyone feel bad.” Not surprisingly, I feel bad!!