Keep your chin up and make slow, non-jerky movements when gesticulating and turning your head. You can understand why self-loathing guys struggle to get girlfriends.– When talking to a girl, ask questions to get her qualifying herself to you. If you play the victim and hold a negative view on everything, women will repel you.If you want to know exactly how to attract women, look no further. I mean do guys know what goes on inside a girl’s head? So what better way to learn how to attract women than to ask the women themselves?There are countless how-to guides on attraction flooding the web, yet most of them leave you none the wiser. And who better to ask other than 21 of the world’s best female dating experts! “We’re perpetually fed a line that we’re looking for love in a market that doesn’t value us,” says Marina Adshade, an economics professor in Canada and author of . However, with the gray divorce boom, there are a lot more older people available than ever before. That said, the dating market for older singles isn’t all that easy. There just aren’t that many available singles our age and the ones who are available are an interesting lot (read Anne Lamott’s funny take of her year on to understand).Here’s what’s happened in the past year — two girlfriends have gotten engaged, and one has her condo on the market and is looking with her boyfriend to buy a new place and move in together. So, because of that and the fact that we live longer, she says, it’s worth putting the time and energy into looking for love regardless of your age.They are all 50-something, empty-nesters and divorced. The difference between men and women at this age, however, is that we don’t necessarily want the same things.
That isn’t true for my three girlfriends, but it’s true for me.
A recent study looked into why older women — in this case, women in their 60s and 70s — date. Some had lost satisfying relationships because the men wanted to get married but the women didn’t, sometimes because it would hurt them financially and sometimes because they didn’t want to have to care for anyone else anymore.
A few things became clear to the researchers early on — the women treasured their independence and craved companionship. In fact, many said they were not interesting in caretaking ever again — they’d been there and done that.
The persistent belief is that women are looking for long-term committed relationship and men are looking for short-term sexual relationships.
That may be true for younger people, but that isn’t always the case at this age, she says.