Shortly after I made the call he wanted to drive to the store, but once we were on the road he drove directly to his staff party making it sound like he was surprised the roads weren’t as bad as he thought and we might as well drop by his staff party seeing as we were out anyway.
(I was not impressed; I was in jeans because I hadn’t gotten my party clothes on or any makeup, because I wasn’t supposed to be going to a party!
True love does not fade the longer you date, it grows stronger.
Do not move in because you don’t want to lose him, if he is as sweet as he pretends to be waiting will not be a problem. The biggest number one without fail sign of a narcissist is how they sweep you off your feet at the beginning of the relationship.
He is arming his arsenal with ammo for later down the road to use against you.
By sharing some of his faults he makes you think he is honest, why would he lie about something insignificant when he was so honest about that? They are seldom alone for long, and will still be in a relationship or just leaving one, they will say the relationship was over long ago but their ex won’t let go, they feel responsible for them etc.
I remember our 3rd date and I walked through the door at his place and he immediately tried to get me into bed, I almost walked out but I didn’t listen to my “gut” and stayed and we did make love. He might even tearfully admit to hitting his ex, but once again it will be tearfully and he was driven to it by her psychotic rages. He is so good-natured you can’t imagine him getting angry about anything and he will tell you how much he hates conflict.
In the beginning he was highly sexual, wanting sex often, 2-3 times a day everyday. They are either between jobs or just started a new job and quite possibly new to town. (Of course his ex was always causing conflict, she bitched at him incessantly about small stuff and brought up things from the past and that is what drove him away, he is planting the seed; he might as well come right out and say; don’t confront me on anything I do because I hate conflict and I will leave you or hit you and some day down the road he will accuse you of being “just like the rest of them”) 16.
In fact the weather had turned really bad, a snow storm, and he said he didn’t want to drive in it so I called and told work I wouldn’t be able to make it.
It is one thing if a guy introduces you to his friends but it is another thing if he purposely shows you off in ways that it will get back to his ex. Past accomplishments or experiences that are just a little too far-fetched or too good to be true. If you discuss past relationships and he is asked about fidelity he will tearfully admit to having ONE indiscretion, and it was only because his ex was so jealous and was always “falsely” accusing him anyway and he did it and then felt so bad.
A decent person does not purposely hurt their ex and if he expects you to participate in vengeful acts against his ex it is a dead give-away that someday you will find yourself in the same boat. Very forceful sexually and wants sex within the first date or two, barely taking no for an answer. To read his resume or hear about his life it all sounds just a little (or a lot) far-fetched. (Leaving you to believe he will be faithful with YOU as long as you don’t falsely accuse him) Whatever went wrong was not his fault, he was the victim, misunderstood.
For example he would say he was really close friends with someone but when I met them they seemed to barely know him.
Then we went to his family for New Years Eve, (he had told me he was adopted and had just met his biological family a few years earlier and moved from Sask.